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Workshop: Create Your Own Love Map


According to the research of John and Julie Gottman, people in successful relationships are intimately familiar with each other’s worlds and how they work. They remember the major events in each other’s histories, they understand their partner's triggers, patterns, turn-ons and turn-offs, and they keep updating their information as the facts and feelings of their partner's world change. They know their partner's temperament, fears, hopes and dreams.

But how can your partner know these things about you? While the Gottmans believe this knowledge is created together in the context of a relationship, often, it starts with self-knowledge. Yes, a partner can learn things about you through observation over time. But a lot of what they learn is also what you tell them, and how you explain and interpret your behavior and choices. And if you aren't able to tell your partner how you work, what you need and what you dream about, it will be a lot of trial and error to figure out how to understand and take care of one another.

One powerful tool to help with this self-knowledge is to map out who you are in relationships. Some people have called a "personal user manual" or "operating instructions." The Gottmans use the term "love map."

In this workshop, through a series of guided exercises, we will create a map of ourselves so that we might become more intimately acquainted with ourselves, and so that we might share this map with others in our life.

If you want to participate and need any accommodation, please e-mail Libby at The venue is partially accessible: there is a ramp around back to enter, but there are stairs to the bathroom.

No one will be turned away for lack of funds. Please e-mail Libby at if you'd like to volunteer in exchange for a free ticket.